Has anybody ever heard of such?

[rwsmith]

I don't want to belabor my problems, everybody has their own. But this is such a strange set of circumstances. I won't blame anybody for just backing out of this thread, but I think that expressing myself is cathartic, even if nobody reads it.

My SIL is getting a divorc eand 10 months ago she and her daughter moved in with us, bringing 3 German Shepherds and a Rottweiller and 2 cats (in a cage). (We have onee little dog) They AIN'T well behaved animals. After a few months one of the females came up pregnant and ended up delivering about 11 surviving puppies. It was a filthy, noisy mess for months. They are AKC registered but getting people to buy them was slow going and even after 6 months 2 of them ended up staying here, bringing the dog count to 6. Well, New Years Day rolls around and the mother dog started delivering more puppies. (nobody knew she was pregnant. My SIL is SUPPOSED to be an animal 'expert') They even had 9 horses and a batch of big dogs on their property that they had to take care of this whole time. Finally, there are only some dogs left out there now. The horse were all a valuable breed, but they had trouble getting anybody to take them, even for free) So, back to the puppies. By midday we had 6 and thought that was it. By late afternoon we had 11 surviving puppies. That brings the total of foreign dogs in our house to 16.

I know that if you've read this far there are some questions:

They have very little money, we've had to foot the bill for most everything. Getting the dogs fixed was on the back burner.

My SIL is one of those people that prefers animals over people. To her, this is normal. I've given up on advising her because I found out that everything I said went right through her head and fell on the floor. I've offered to help with things as simple as getting their tractor fixed to sell and it was all wasted breath.

I'll cut it off here before I get started on ancillary gripes.

 

[AugieTN]

From the internet:

To "fix" your pet for free, meaning to get them spayed or neutered without cost, you can typically reach out to your local animal shelter, Humane Society, or participate in low-cost spay/neuter clinics held in your area, which often offer subsidized or free services depending on income qualifications and availability; check their websites or call to inquire about programs and eligibility.

 

[Ματθιας]

People do what they can get away with.

It's your house and your rules. Time to put your foot down. If you don't, you'll keep getting walked on and will continue to be miserable.

So, what are you going to do? <-----<<<< rhetorical question.

 

[alwslate]

As said above. Why is it that you are not the master of your own home?

 

[ameridaddy]

A long time ago, I would have married a certain woman, but I felt her dog rated higher than me to her. She goo-gooed-gah-gahed over that dog like it was her baby, and the final straw was her insisting it was OK for that stinking thing to crawl in the covers between us and sleep every night. I left.

I wonder if your SIL's preference for animals over people was a factor in her divorce.
She's taking advantage of you, and if it were me, she'd have a choice:
1. the animals go or
2. she and the animals go.
I can't imagine the smell, damage to your rugs and furniture (puppies pee and love to chew) and inconvenience to you and yours.
She has an adult decision to make.

 

[Walkin Horse]

As said above. Why is it that you are not the master of your own home?

Give the guy a break. He said SIL. That’s the wife’s sister. At this point he might not have a choice.

OTOH I had a BIL take advantage of my hospitality and generosity. Not to this extreme but it was the wife’s family. It concerned my garage and tools. I took it for an awhile but I finally put my foot down gently.

 

[BC38]

People do what they can get away with.

It's your house and your rules. Time to put your foot down. If you don't, you'll keep getting walked on and will continue to be miserable.

So, what are you going to do? <-----<<<< rhetorical question.

I'm with Ματθιαc. Keeping the peace in the family is usually a good thing...

But if keeping the peace means you have to be a doormat, then you are allowing your in-laws to abuse your good nature.

Time to stand up for yourself.

JMO, and YMMV...

 

[Onomea]

RW, I think you need to have a heart-to-heart with your wife on this. Your SIL moved in ten months ago. You and your wife have been very generous. The SIL needs to move on. There is a limit to hospitality, even for SILs.

Your own marriage should come first.

 

[swsig]

A long time ago, I would have married a certain woman, but I felt her dog rated higher than me to her. She goo-gooed-gah-gahed over that dog like it was her baby, and the final straw was her insisting it was OK for that stinking thing to craw in the covers between us and sleep every night. I left....

Decades ago, I came to this conclusion about human behavior: Those who treat dogs like people, tend to treat people like dogs.
I haven't seen much evidence to the contrary since.

 

[quikdraw67]

Start with your wife. It's her sister after all. You need to make it crystal clear to her your position on things.

You are a much more patient man than myself.

I'll just leave it at that.

 

[JET4]

Talk with your wife first.Tell her enough is enough.
Then both go to her sister and tell her the animals go or you and the animals go.No way I would live like that.

 

[Bekeart]

First Things First

FIX ALL DOGS!

This will not stop your problems.

Just prevents FUTURE problems.

Based on my sister and an uncle, some family trees could stand pruning.

Bekeart

 

[gym cat]

change the locks.

 

[URIT]

You have a big, possibly costly problem, with all those dogs in your home. By law in SC, you are only allowed 10 unless you have a breeder's license. South Carolina Dog Ownership Limit: How Many Dogs Can You Have? | PetShun

She may have more personal issues than being kind to dogs. I would be encouraging her to see social services to help her get her life back on track for independent living.

 

[Sarge9]

One rule from day 1, nobody is moving in w/us.
I will help you find a place, rent (short) you a place.
Weekend might be ok but Mon.am, see you later.
Has worked for 50 yrs. Cost me 500. once.
Yes ppl get mad, but get mad, get glad.
you are too dang nice, bet the wife is fed up too.

 

[biku324]

I don't want to belabor my problems, everybody has their own. But this is such a strange set of circumstances. I won't blame anybody for just backing out of this thread, but I think that expressing myself is cathartic, even if nobody reads it.

I'll cut it off here before I get started on ancillary gripes.

What's you wife's position on this?

My SIL was divorcing husband three and needed this and that; I had a heart-to-heart with my wife and pointed out our resources were gradually being pushed to her sister. She reluctantly, tearfully agreed it was past time to let her sister manage her own affairs (so to speak) and we stopped 'helping' in a three-month stepdown. As I had suspected, her sister found man #4 just about the time her ride with us ended.

Men who do the same thing as my SIL did to us are referred to locally as 'hobosexuals.'

 

[alwslate]

Give the guy a break. He said SIL. That’s the wife’s sister. At this point he might not have a choice.

Sorry to have to disagree but if it's his home he always has a choice. He HAS to assert himself period. The perception of not having a choice is pure weakness that can and will be taken advantage of. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. He should never have allowed this situation to develop to begin with. When people refuse to make choices then others will make choices for them.

 

[glowe]

. . . I know that if you've read this far there are some questions: . . .

My first question was going to be what the heck is an SIL?!?!? I finally figured it out. I am hopefully old enough to not live to see the day when everyone is only using only acronyms when they speak.

 

[Mule Packer]

Sounds like her husband is the smart one in this scenario.

Ten months? She's been with you ten months?? It's a cinch she's not going to leave. She's got it too good. Honestly now...you really don't know how to fix this? Really?

Here's some good ol' farm boy words of advice I heard years ago. "If you want to get rid of stray cats, you quit feedin' 'em." It's that simple.

 

[dave1918a2]

I see two choices.
1. Grow a pair.
2. Leave.